Party-Shaming

 I love nothing more than when karma does its thing. 

Truly. 

I keep being finger-wagged, “Yasmin. You say you want a serious boyfriend. But look at the lifestyle you entertain. How do you expect to get what you want if you keep doing what you’re doing? You love to go out every other night, to dance, to drink, to dress up, flirt with strangers. You expect to meet your future husband there? You’re not getting anywhere with that kind of behaviour. No self-respecting guy is gonna want a girl who roams through the night hours like you.” 

The Expectation of a “Relationship”

What does a relationship look like to you? 

Is it domestic stuff like doing groceries on a Sunday? Or brushing your teeth at the same godly hour every night? Or sawing a crib for the nursery?

Sure.

Is it also dressing up for each other? Holding hands through an art gallery? Ending up on a cocktail rooftop? Making out in an underground dance floor?

Who decided a relationship needs to be boring. People tell me that a girl who goes out isn’t “girlfriend material” or “wife material”. I guess there is some universal signed document that states a relationship needs to be wholesome in order to be long-lasting. So - even though there exist men who enjoy a lavish, wilder lifestyle, I cannot expect them to be my long-term companion? 

You Can’t Have Both in the Same Man

I MUST choose between Fuckboi Partyguy and Mr. Boring and Serious? What about the fact that I exist: 

I’m adventurous, fun, spontaneous. I like to travel, explore new neighbourhoods, dabble in the occasional mdma. 

I ALSO like to buy beans in bulk, to go to the gym, to pay my bills on time, to sleep on clean sheets. 

I am capable of enjoying a boiler room and the vitamin aisle within the same 24 hours. Wow.

Are men truly more one-dimensional than us? Or is that just another claim in favour of weaponised incompetence?

The Karma

Now we get to the good part. 

The same women who snub their noses at girls like me, for not having self-control and for being warm and friendly and fun-loving….are getting cheated on by their beloved by…girls like me. 

Look, I don’t condone cheating. I personally don’t want to deal with a dude who has a girlfriend. But it’s the smugness being put to right that I don’t apologise finding satisfaction in. 

The Hypocrisy!

The dudes get what they deserve too. A lot of them who deemed girls like me unworthy of devotion are now running to us because judgemental home-life isn’t as satisfying. Bro…if relationships are so boring and imprisoning, why didn’t you choose a girl who you’re enjoying life with in the first place? Who insisted that you marry the woman who goes to bed at 9pm? If the quiet life is not for you… why’d you act like you’re above having fun, WHEN IT’S EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT AND YOU CAN GET A HOT GIRL TO BE BY YOUR SIDE?

Anyway, that’s my rant.